Today in car with sister and mom it came up how jealous my nephew had seemed that I was nice to this 8 year old girl that had been over with her mom for dinner. This poor little girl has an unusual birth defect that among other things she has no elbows. Arms are just locked at 90 degrees. Also quite poor, just unemployed mom and her live in a trailer. Girl happens to be extremely musical. Writes her own original songs (just in her head) at only 8 years old. So of course, to be nice to her I show her my music studio and record some music with her. This makes my nephew very angry, apparently out of jealousy. Which I find disgusting. And truthfully it's the same damm way his mother is. Somehow the subject comes up in the car and I'm informed that of course any 8 year old would get mad. Apparently I'm supposed to treat him better than some other 8 year old. I shouldn't have shown this other kid the music studio. I respond that that would be unethical. Of course I'm going to be nice to this other kid, the same as I'm nice to my nephew. Sister then says that she doesn't want me around her son anymore. Which is typical from her. She's ethically defective. She is not in control of her animal half. She's also financially bankrupt, and not even from an illness or losing a job, just flat out from spending tons and tons of money. Along the way put 40k on a credit card in my mom's name. She's also fat. I'm more than a foot taller and she outweighs me. The nearby hospital told her to not come back last time she went there for her headaches. She usually goes to the ED once or twice a month for headaches and takes enough pain medicine to kill me. And despite this she won't even quit drinking caffeine.

OK so she's a dumbass. Thought to remember is that her rational mind is not in control of the animal part of her. Like a large dog that's usually nice, that in the right circumstances could maul you.

Then Mom chimes in, "It's just some kid you're not even related to!"
Which reminds me of how awfully she treated my adopted nepalese brother, Dipendra. He was like the work help basically. Made to do endless chores. Here and there I dared to point this out and got screamed at and so on for my trouble. The very idea that I would claim he hadn't been treated equally, was supposedly quite absurd.

"It's just some kid you're not even related to!"

She also treated my nepalese stepsister like shit. And now can't understand why that sister doesn't really have much to do with her.

Last night at work, after waiting on some guy hand and foot for 10 hours, at which point I was getting a bit tired, starts screaming insults and so on at me because I didn't read his mind and pull him up 2 inches in the bed to eat his dinner.

Another person owned by their animal mind.

I probably have a very conservative average of 10 new patients each week. Sometimes more like 20. And there are a lot of people out there who are controlled by their animal mind. And people with substandard ethics.

Can't avoid being subjected to such people. But, you have a beer and forgot them.

So then, men spread their genes better by cheating on wives. They just have to convince themselves they don't suck in order to do it.

Women expect unequal treatment for their family members. Not all women though. I know a couple decent ones.

Was asked, "How do you know when it's the one?"

1. Ethics - same idea of how people should be treated. (Degree of selfishness vs altruism. Degree of honesty. Etc.)
2. Comfort - can you fart around them? Have you reached the point where you're really being how you actually really are? And them also?
3. Trust - self explanatory
4. Acceptance - are you still keeping a tally of their positives and negatives and comparing to others? Or do you accept the person as they are, and plan on making things work with them?

Applies for any actual real friendships also.

(I guess actual attraction and a few additional odds and ends matter, slightly.)